Kill me and keep your honour- a social introspective

"If my son had not killed her, I would have killed her." –said boastful mother whose son killed his sister for keeping the "honour" of the society. The societies whose foundations are laid on hollow façade. How caould a brother who had lived with his sister for sixteen years strangle her finding her love towards a boy who was of same gotra or different caste?

In the 21^st century we live in a parochial society whose rules were set in medieval ages. These rules were set for prosperity of race against the other, to stop the mixing of bloods to evade social outcastism. In age of globalization where whole world is intertwined, each one is struggling to have a better life; society persists with rules which have no meaning in present context. In this patriarchal society where father do not discuss with problems their own family but care about society. They think they have to live in the society and they are the guardians to look their children grow like them. In villages particularly elderly people will spend so much time discussing among themselves. They do not have time to discuss with their children about their dreams and aspirations.

In arrange marriage girls are married to boys whom they have never met, even do not know about their compatibility. Slowly love dies between them. They become habituated of each other, often results in domestic violence. This violence inures them and they become like their mother who will treat her sons like a prince and mistreat daughters as their belongings. The mother blind folded follows her husband as he is one who runs the family. People in villages do not know about the developments but will keep fighting for their honour. The Honour should be how much they are successful in inculcating their child.

There is drawback of love marriages too. You will find out large number of divorce cases in US resulting from these love marriages. All have pros and cons. I want to say that if a girl loves a boy; his family should hear her points and should understand her feeling. They should inquire about the boy and if they find him suitable them they should move forward.

Brother kills his sister. Mother kills her daughter. They want to hold their head high in the society. But after killing will they not miss her. These brothers will look at other girls with lecherous desires. The society has changed. Now we live in nuclear family, even in villages. These caste systems have now become orthodox. People meet with each other and know each other well even the women folk. You cannot impose your choices. Sensitivity among the youth is growing. They are become aware of their rights and wrongs.

If we are so much engrossed with our caste system then why not divide our cricket teams based on the castes. IPL teams will be known as Meena Lions, Rajput Warriors etc. Why do you call yourself Indian? Divide it according to the castes. The caste system has to go now. Politicians and few people who have lust for this power do not let it go due to their selfish desires. Ignorance due to proper education and the myths created by the age old traditions have kept this caste system in vogue. Ignorant minds who should be having better living, better education and think about them still believe in what society thinks about them. Society should welcome the modern changes or it will perish.

Future is in our hand and we have to create it. Spread the message against khap panchayats and social injustice in regard to honour killings. A strong campaign is required against these honour killings. India is land of unity in diversity, a little bit of more diversity will enhance this unity.